Guiness, Harry "Learn to Argue more Productively" The New York Times 15 April 2020 https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/smarter-living/learn-to-argue-productively.html
The article "Learn to Argue more Productively" states that "the emotions you feel when someone disagrees or challenges you on something reveal where your personal expectations don't line up with reality,"(Guiness). I think that this is true for me, because whenever I argue with someone, whether it be my sister, friend, or parents, I get mad when disagree. For example, whenever I ask my parents for a dog, they always say no. I don't think that my expectations were "unrealistic" but I should've probably just let them decide and not get mad.
A piece of advice in this article is "talk about disagreements when you're not having them,"(Guiness). I believe that this is a great piece of advice for healthier relationships, because people usually tend to get into arguments when they are in a bad mood. Talking through these disagreements could be a lot easier when everyone is in a good mood, and much easier to make a compromise. For example, when me and my sister were fostering dogs, we would always fight about who got to feed the medicine (we both always wanted to) but when we were in a better mood, we would sort things out, and maybe make a schedule. It was much less of a hassle that way.
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